Some thoughts on discipline or training with little ones

As an Occupational Therapist and a mum of several children I have learned some useful pointers for discipline: Toddlers enter a developmental phase where they start to experience a desire for autonomy and mastery. It is really important that we take a step back as carers and acknowledge this desire for independence as healthy. Yes, it's exasperating and tiring and it keeps you on your toes but a child who is not supported positively (for example whose behaviour is constantly labelled negative...
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Attachment and Separation Anxiety

So many parents understandably get worried when their child cries, throws a temper tantrum or becomes clingy when they say goodbye to them. This response from your little one can be heart breaking but it is normal for your baby or toddler to get upset when you say goodbye to them. This reaction is called separation anxiety. It is a natural stage of development and shows that they have formed a healthy attachment to you. What does a secure attachment look like? A baby who has a secure attach...
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Navigating the nanny-child-mommy relationship

We all know that bonding is vital in the early years and has a huge impact on the emotional well-being of our children https://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/medicalcenter/healthtips/20100114_infant-bonding.html. But what happens when the majority of our child’s time is spent with a nanny? How do we make sure our children are getting the love and care that they need when they are with their nanny? Below are 10 tips to develop a GREAT nanny-child-mom relationship: 1. Give your nanny freedom to hav...
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Nanny courses

Have you ever thought of sending your nanny on some courses? Not only will it empower and upskill your nanny but it will bring great benefits to your family and to her community as well. A Win-Win for everyone! Here are some ideas of courses we've found to be legitimate and beneficial for a nanny: SOIL FOR LIFE (Growing your own vegetables) https://www.soilforlife.co.za/ Soil for Life is a non-profit organisation, based in Cape Town, that helps people learn to grow healthy, organic food. ...
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The importance of Fine Motor Development

Increasingly, school aged children are entering the education system with poor fine motor skills. Skills such as colouring in, cutting and writing which are essential in meeting the demands of the foundation phase classroom. Why is this happening? Many believe it is because of the way that play is changing. Sedentary play is starting to dominate the free time of our children with increased screen time. Furthermore, it is not uncommon for parents to be unaware of the need to allow children to pra...
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Why “Mess is best”

Babies and toddlers make sense of their world with the information they receive through their five senses. They understand things by what they see, hear, smell, taste and touch which is why sensory play is so crucial for healthy development. Sensory play tends to be a little messy which is why you might need some encouragement before you'd be willing to let your baby or toddler stick their hands in a bowl of goop. Here are 5 reasons why you should say yes to the mess: 1. Brain benefits D...
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Fine Motor Development

Learning to write, cut and dress oneself are major milestones in a child’s life, but how do those little fingers go from involuntarily grasping something as a baby, to skillfully performing these tasks? The short answer: They need to develop fine motor skills. Fine motor skills are the small coordinated movements of the hands and fingers that allow us to pick up and manipulate objects. They form a big part of our ability to function independently and are essential for writing and cutting, amo...
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Nannies: 5 Tips for great communication with your employer

Being a Nanny is a serious job and as much as it can be incredibly rewarding watching a little one grow up from the baby years to a being fully fledged toddler, and beyond, it can also be very challenging along the way. One of the key resources in the life of a Nanny is a good relationship with your employer; here are some tips on how to grow and develop that relationship well so that you can face the challenges as a team. Set your expectations at the beginning and in writing When you begi...
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Cultivating Creativity

Humans are creative by nature. Unlike any other creature on this earth, we are wired to be creative. In a world that is rapidly changing, by the time today’s toddlers join the work force, creativity will be the most sought after skill in the work place. Creativity develops independence, self-esteem, and problem-solving skills; fine-motor skills, hand-eye coordination and many more. That is why it is so important to cultivate creativity while children are still young. So how can we practically...
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Are you paying your nanny a living wage?

  On the back of human rights day recently we began thinking about the women close to our hearts at Nanny ‘n Me: our wonder-working nannies! With all the turmoil in our country it can be difficult not to become discouraged about the terrible situations many people are living in. With fires and the devastation they have brought, lack of proper services, transport issues, lack of safety and a rising poverty rate, it’s hard to know if there is anything we can do to stop the downward spiral....
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